I’ve always been fond of Alanis Morissette, even after “Jagged Little Pill”, but I never knew why. I don’t find her particularly attractive, especially when she’s naked but I’ve always kinda dug her. Well now I know why: she keeps it real in interviews.
When asked how she dealt with her breakup from fiancé Ryan Reynolds she said:
“All my life I’ve been in long-term monogamous relationships. I had to break that pattern by not allowing myself to have a relationship for a year, stopping myself from committing to men. I haven’t been celibate. I’ve had lots of dates and lots of sex, but I haven’t been pushing to turn a date into a relationship. This has been a huge thing for me.”
I think it takes a lot of hard work for women to not look at every dude they spend time with, date or fuck as a potential mate. It’s tragic it’s part of our culture that woman are supposed to “make it work” instead of kicking the loser out, taking her decisions/responsibilities/life into her own hands and selecting (or not selecting) something better.
However, once you figure out you can date and have fun I think that’s the only time you’re able to really evaluate people based on their merits versus what they do for you (or complete in you). Just my two cents, so hump away humpie humpers! But for fun, not for soul-sucking codependency.
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1 Kavick // Jul 30, 2008 at 9:09 pm
my opinion– a person knows they have found the right ‘potential mate’ when their life doesn’t have to change drastically to make that happen. have separate lives, or hobbies. one probably shouldn’t marry their best friend. that’s where the suffocating comes in.
but do live together first.
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